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Releases January 13, 2026
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If your career just vanished, a relationship ended, or your beliefs crumbled, you might be asking this question right now. Major life transitions don't just change your circumstances—they shake your sense of who you are.
You're not broken. You're experiencing what happens when you outgrow the roles and identities you've been trying to squeeze into.
Through my own experience with job loss, divorce, and the collapse of familiar belief systems, I discovered something that changed everything: much of what I thought was "me" came from inherited patterns I never consciously chose.
Beneath those borrowed identities is something more stable—your capacity for awareness itself.
The C.A.L.M. Method
People who navigate major transitions well aren't necessarily stronger. They've learned to distinguish between automatic reactions and conscious responses. Between inherited conditioning and authentic choice.
My book "From Reactive to Resilient: Practical Awareness for Major Life Changes" teaches the C.A.L.M. Method—a four-step framework for maintaining stability when everything feels uncertain:
C - Connect with what's happening in and around you Pause and notice your experience right now—your body, breath, thoughts, and the world around you.
A - Allow the things that are to be as they are Let yourself experience this moment without labeling it good or bad. Acceptance means acknowledging reality so you can respond with awareness.
L - Let Go of your running commentary about the situation Notice when your mind clings to how things "should" be. Gently release unhelpful attachments.
M - Move Forward to take action informed by the present moment Take your next step from mindful awareness, not from habit or reactivity.
These four steps are introduced briefly here—download the free chapter for the complete framework with detailed guidance.
This isn't meditation instruction or abstract philosophy. It's practical awareness techniques for career transitions, relationship endings, belief shifts, or any major change that leaves you questioning who you are.
Backed by 184 research endnotes. Edited by Cathy Suter, who has edited Jon Kabat-Zinn's work.
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About Mike:
I'm a Wisconsin-based writer who developed these approaches while navigating divorce, job loss, and community dissolution. My work combines lived experience with psychological research, written for people who want real tools—not platitudes or quick fixes.
Your beliefs are changing. You are not.
When the belief system I'd held since childhood began to collapse under the weight of questions I could no longer ignore, I didn't just lose a religion. I lost the lens through which I'd interpreted everything about myself and the world. I lost the community that had organized my social life for decades. I lost the framework that told me what was right, what was true, and who I was supposed to be.